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My mom has a bf who lives two states away, and yes they have a long distant
relationship, but they see each other at least a weekend every two weeks.
(they've been dating over a year btw)

But she always ditches me for him.
3 nights ago we were watching a movie and he called, so she got up and
left me watching it alone. The next day we were going to go out to eat,
so I took a shower, did my hair, makeup..Etc went into her bedroom to
see if she was busy, and she was on the phone with him and just put
her finger up in the air (as to say "hold on")..The next thing you know,
hours have gone by and the restaurant is officially closed. When she
got off the phone with him, she called her bff and talked for an hour
before finally coming into the living room (where I was) and asking if
I wanted to go through a drive through since everywhere else was closed.
The next night (which was last night) once again we were watching a movie,
he called, she got up and went into the other room to talk.
Yesterday I asked her to cut my hair (she does hair) but she said that she
was too busy, and that she promises to do it today.
Today, her bf called so she stayed on the phone with him for like
5 hours now. I finally got mad and went in there if she was still going
to cut it, and she just held up her finger and whispered for me to hang on.

She does this EVERY DAY!
I'm so sick of it. I've been in long distant relationships before and I
never did this!

Your so not over reacting, I would be so mad if my Mom did that.
You have every right to be mad!!

Your not over-reacting, she shouldn't be giving you such little attention, especially when she got your hopes a bunch of times. However, you need to talk to her about it. It won't change itself; you have to go up to her and tell her (nicely) that your sick of being pushed to the side all the time, and that you'd really appreciate it if she could make time for you, her daughter. I totalllly get where you're coming from. Now, don't be mean to her because that will not fix anythingggg ! But just tell her how you feel, and hopefully she'll understand & change things up. Good luckk; hope I helped !

you should probably freak out on her. she just doesn't get it and you need to get the point across. she might not even pay attention if you don't just freak out about it. you should mean WAY more to her than some boytoy. if she doesn't understand that she doesn't deserve you

its kind of weird

If "she does this EVERY DAY" then you should know it's coming & don't make plans w/ her.
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YOU neeed to let your mother know how you feel about this. im sure she is happy to talk to her boyfriend, but at the same time she is neglecting you. and remind her of all the thigs you and her didn"get to do. maybe if you tell her all this she will say something. i hope for you she does! my heart goes out to you, icare. iam also a mother, and this is wrong.please let me know how you are doing,take care. Grammy

this exact thing is happening to my friend, it even caused my friend to move out of her moms house... I think your mom is miss treating you. the question is what to do about it. I have no idea how to fix something like this. Try talking to her?