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So I got in a fight with my little sister last night. We don't have any cable or movies, so I listen to my Ipod alot. Yesterday, I found out that my sister, Kelly, took my headphones while she went out with her dad all day. I needed to clean that day, so I was mad that she took them, because the radio is far from where I needed to clean. When she came home, she told me that she never took my headphones, but my other sister(Leanne) tells me that she remembers seeing Kelly with them in the morning. I go to confront Kelly and she tells me that she had them in the morning, but doesn't know where they were at that moment. Angry, and knowing that she's lying(because she lied the first time) I drag her out of her room and tell her to either "find" these headphones that she "lost" or tell me where she has them. She refuses to tell me, claiming that she "misplaced them" so I force her to "look" or pretend to look around the house for them or tell me where she's hiding them. Later, my mom comes out of the shower and calls her to bed.

I am furious at this time, so I go into Kelly's room and try to find the headphones that she took(because I need to clean the next day). While Leanne and I search her room, we find my social security card, which was something I had been looking for to find my scholarships. We also find makeup remover in her backpack, which shows that she had been lying to our mom about NOT wearing heavy makeup to school.

The next morning, my mom wakes me up at six and screams at me for bullying Kelly. I try to tell her the story, but she only screams for me to "shut up" and clean the rest of the house for the day. I then follow her to her room to tell her to atleast hear my part, but she grabs me, digs her fingernails into my skin and pushes me outside.

Later on, she asks Kelly if she really brings makeup remover to school, but Kelly says no and my mom believes her. I go into the room and try to tell her the truth, but my mom only screams and tells me to get out. After alot of convincing, I manage to say and give my side of the story, but my mom only believes Kelly and says that I might "mean well." I then tell my mom that I only dragged Kelly out of her room and that she was glad that I was doing this because it was getting me in trouble. I also said that I would never have done that if she told me where she hid my headphones. While I say this, Kelly walks out of the room quickly. My mom then continues to believe that I am crazy and that a twelve-year-old can't do that. (I have to say, a twelve year old wouldn't do that, and that my sister's sneakiness is a little creepy). The other day, my mom commented on how skinny I was, and Kelly started crying uncontrollably and screaming. She then kept asking/demanding/crying if she was as skinny as me until my mom finally said that she was.

A few minutes later, Kelly comes back into the room and says that she would never try to steal my headphones and that it wouldn't "make her any skinnier." She then stated that she took my social security card because "she was thought it was hers and she was trying to keep it safe"(even though my name was on it and I NEEDED IT for filling out financial aid forms and scholarships. My mom believes her still and orders my sister Leanne and I to clean up the house. We threaten to call other people in the family and tell them the story, but she says that she doesn't care. About ten minutes after she leaves, a family member calls yelling at Leanne and I demanding what's going on and why are we mean to Kelly.

Right now, I am extremely upset and I feel so helpless. I'm also hurt that my own sister would lie to me like that and take my things. Now, I feel that I may be exaggerating, but I think that my sister is a little sick in the head. She kind of reminds me of Maculay Culkin's character in the good son, even though I doubt she would kill anyone. Am I overreacting? Should I try to get some help with this situation, or should I just forget it and move on?

Move on but be alert from now on. Don't be over possessive about your things. 'no thing' is important than you own sister. If you dont think so, and if you think your sister is sick by mind then find ways to teach her 'stealing' other's things is wrong by stealing her belongings and hiding them from her. Mind it , it should be an important thing of hers and make sure you won't hurt her badly; after all she is your sister.....

Ok, so Kelley steals and lies about it. and your mother is ignoring the problem.


Would a 12 year old do this??? yes, some of them,but it does not necessarily mean that she has some sort of mental illness. But your mother's reactions/behavior are reinforcing the lying, and letting her get away with taking other people's stuff is a real problem. Kelley is not learning that there are consequences from bad behavior. It makes it sort of likely that she will steal something NOT from the family, and another person or store will NOT ignore it the way your mother does.

is there anything you can do about it? no, not really. Try to keep your stuff locked up.