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Sure I have friends, but I don't really know if they are my "true" friends. I have some online friends I talk to, probably like only about 4 people though. And the people I hang around at, at school are so boring. They don't talk at all, and half of the majority smokes weed.When I hang around with them at school, its like a bunch of negative energy.They either talk about how much they talk crap about god, or talk about the weirdest things. They are like really angry people.I'm afraid to be around them because they might offer me weed, or they do boring ****. I just want to be around people with light spirited energy that seem happy each day, and do really exciting things. Simple things like going to the mall and such. I see alot of people with pictures with their friends and I never had that experience. My whole entire family is like anti social. People seem to refer me to a kind of person that does more family time.I love my family, but I want to be around people besides my family and have fun. What I'm really wondering, is what can I do to make myself seem more outgoing, and have people get to know me? Do I need to boost my confidence or what?I have the fear of being accepted. Like each day I think, I need to be this skinny to be liked, I need to wear makeup everyday, etc;.Some people even consider me boring because I don't know what to say half of the time. I just fear of being alone forever.

Hi Kate. Welcome to my life! I am older than you and I hope I can help. The thing is, in my opinion, that every person is unique, like a seed. Some seeds are Oak trees, Some Rose bushes ect. Some types of seed are a lot more common than others. What I am saying is I think that you are one of the less common types of seed, and you are surrounded by the ones who are more numerous, so naturally you feel (and are) different to them! And they see you are different to them, and can easily get judgemental and label you 'boring' (read - 'not like us'). But you dont want to fall into the trap of trying to measure up to their rules and expectations, because they suit their types, not yours. What you want is to discover the special talents and strenghs and characteristics that you have been gifted with, and you want to nurture yourself so that the unique seed inside grows strong into what it can be. You sound sensitive. If you search you will probably find you are interested and naturally good in an area that requires that strengh. When you have identified the strenghs you have been given you need to set your goals - the things you want that will grow your gifts, and you need to give total effort to them. It isnt easy and many obstacles will come along, but return to your goals and your commitment each time. Good luck. Remember just becuase you are surrounded at the moment with people you dont have much in common with, that there isnt a place out there in the bigger world for you.

TAKE THE WEED ! you'll love it after you do it, you wont regret it. Its amazing. Im dead as$ right now; just do it.