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lol. I can't believe I read all that. and to answer your question.. no, it wasn't normal from the beginning. You shouldn't have married him just because half of the ring is paid for!

I quit reading after you said he needed 3 weeks to confirm being exclusive, you should have quit too.

Ummm...Dump Him, jk, for real tell him how you feel and if it doesn't change then divorce him.

Okay here it is...
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The family issues are knit picky..... You have to drop some issues at some point. Weddings are always high drama and there is USUALLY some problem with the family. Sometimes a relationship takes years to develop... sometimes they never do at all. I think you have insecurity issues that you are making into inlaw drama.
I understand your trust issues. You have reason to mistrust him. Those issues should be worked out in counseling with you and him.
You should not be trying to force him to deal with his family in the way that you would like. Your realtionship is between you and him and he can't force his family to like you or respond to you. You need to let that issue alone in order to work at a better marriage. You seem to be finding issues because of earlier infidelities and the insecurity it caused.

why did you marry him? why would you say yes to a lifetime commitment with someone you werent sure about if there was even an inkling of doubt you should have said no or at least lets wait im not ready at this point....

you must have a lot of time

Don't let the families come between the two of you. I do not and have not gotten along very well with my in-laws and my husband doesn't get along too well with my family. Just try to distance yourself from them and do not make him take sides.

I can also relate to the trust issue you are dealing with. The only advice I have for you would be to remind yourself that even if he was conflicted before he got whatever he needed to get out of his system out and came back to you. Getting more details about what actually happened will only cause more pain. Regardless of what happened before you still decided to marry him. When you did that you sent the message that you were willing to let the past stay in the past. Try to concentrate on the here and now and look forward to your future.

Marriage is hard and it takes a lot of work but the more you work at it the more you come to appreciate it.

This is waaaay too long. Next time be more succinct. Now, to your question. Your final premise is entirely WRONG.
'I know that men do not change' We change all the time with
the proper incentives. Bring him in to the counseling with you as a start and go from there.

Peace be unto you.

I'm sorry, but you're living in some kind of weird, alternate universe that I cannot comprehend.

He says, "I cheated on you, will you marry me?"

And you say yes.

WTF? I'm sorry, but I don't know how to respond to the insanity of this.