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Hey
Okay so i finished my last year of high school last year, Lets just say my enter score was terrible :( (under 30) I will admit that i cruised my year 12, because i thought i wanted to go to tafe ( no enter required for the course) but I ended up losing all interest in it and having no idea what i wanted to do
I have struggled my whole way through school with low grades, it just seemed no matter how much effort i put in i never got anything back, i ended up losing all confidence in my ability in the end and gave up even trying.
I've grown up with a slight learning problem (nothing major, you wouldn't know it talking to me, i just have a hard time learning..)
My confidence has been knocked around so much the last few years, I was already a shy person and have grown up suffering severe lack of confidence (both in my physical appearance and intelegence) And I don't know what to do, I don't even have the confidence to get a job, i feel completely worthless and like no one would want to employ me because i'll just skrew up, and i'm NOT lazy person,i wish i had the confidence to have a job and meet new people but i can't bring myself to do it, i just feel like i'm not worth enough to be anyones friend, which makes it difficult to MAKE them.
All my high school friends are off at uni, and even though i still have contact with them i feel so lonely, it makes me jealous that there all off at uni having a great time and i would love to be doing what they are doing but i don't have the score to ever get into uni :(
I just feel so ugly and so worthless, the only time i ever feel pretty is if i have makeup on and am in good lighting stupid i know! but without make up i am so ugly and it just doesn't feel fair.
I have no idea what i want to do with my life, i would love to just be at uni having a great time even if it wasn't for something i wanted to do one day, but i can't even do that!:(
Please how do i get out of this rut and stop feeling like this :(
Thanks, Bec.

Ok...I think you've beaten yourself down enough for 2 people...gets old doesn't it? I mean it cant help you feel any better, eh? So how about finding one or 2 things about yourself that are good...or ok...or not so bad? You made it thru high school..bottom line...so that's something. You can type (lol) so that's something...seriously...you can only turn things around by turning your thoughts and habits around. How about some positive thinking books...wayne dyer has many...(library/book stores) and loads of other authors...also a great suggestion...is how about volunteering for a while? Gets you experience with people...you FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF because you are helping other, thus helping yourself. Old folks homes, soup kitchens, animal shelters, tutoring kids...so many programs..and again...it gives you experience.(looks good on any resume) You also tend to forget about yourself...and your problems for a while..and that feels good too. Look online at volunteer opportunities in your city/town- call a church nearby, or a catholic charities office. As I said there are loads of options. Get cracking today! :o)

OH MY YOU NEED TO LOOK AT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROW AND TELL YOURSELF YOU ARE SOMEBODY AND THAT YOU LOVE WHAT YOU SEE. IF YOU DON'T THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. PEOPLE WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU TREAT YOURSELF. IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF THEY WILL TOO. IF YOU DON'T THEY WONT. YOU SOUND DOWN GET UP AND GET IT TOGETHER YOU DON'T'T SOUND UGLY SO THERE IS A GOOD START. EVERY MORNING GET UP AND DO SOMETHING SPECIAL AND MAKE SOMEONE ELSE SMILE WITH YOU. THAT ALWAYS MAKES ME FEEL GOOD. REMEMBER SAY OH MAN I LOOK GOOD.