Hey Irish! I love patchouli too! But, you are right that you can buy some that stink! They don't all smell the same for some reasons and I know that for a fact! I have made that mistake myself! I love Essence Oils and have bought some that just weren't quite right! I have a few perfumes that I love but of course they are really expensive! My bf bought be Dolce & Gabana "Light Blue" for Christmas! It smells heavenly, but doesn't stay on me for long, but when I smell it on other women it is so nice! (Not that I like smelling other women!) I also like "Knowing" and "Pleasure" by Estee Lauder! Those are my favs! As for men, my bf has a whole bunch! Some I like, some I hate! I love Hugo Boss, Sean John "Unforgiveable" and something else that I can't remember! I hate "Burberry Brit" and he just loves that one! He really is into very expensive colognes like I like my perfumes! Except I can't afford mine anymore since I'm not working!